“Most men know how to be good fathers in the same way most women know how to be good mothers.” – Hogan Hilling, Author
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The Truth About Today’s Modern Dads
For the past twenty-six years I’ve observed dads in my community and social dad network who epitomize all that is great and valuable about fatherhood. The breed of dads I have met are caring, nurturing, sensitive, compassionate men who chose to embrace a different approach to parenting then their dads, while still keeping their masculinity in tact. I don’t mean any disrespect to the past generation of dads but today’s modern dads have shown a tremendous amount of courage in redefining the image of fatherhood in a positive way.
Today’s modern dad is not only a different breed of man but he also lives in a different parenting climate, in which dads are more involved at home and also pro-active in their community. One of the most significant positive changes today’s modern dad has made is the choice to be the primary caregiver of the family. At-home dads have proven a man is just as capable as a woman to nurture and care for children; and also manage a household. The role reversal also proved to be a valuable asset for the women who relished the opportunity to pursue professional careers they worked hard to achieve and still be a mom.
As the population of at-home dads and their comfort level to embrace the primary caregiver role increased so did the interest of the traditional working dads to change their attitude about their role as involved parents. In so doing, these modern day fatherhood pioneers set a higher standard of involvement for other dads to follow.
One example comes from Jim DiCenzo, who I met in 1995. During a fatherhood workshop, one of the dads in attendance expressed his frustration about how unfriendly medical professionals and educators were to fathers. Jim replied, “If you would like a father-friendly environment, you need to act like a friendly father.”
Jim’s comment was a wake up call millions of dads have embraced and acted on throughout the USA with great success.
Today’s modern dads, who contributed stories to my new book Dads Behaving Dadly: 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood , have proven the loving, tender, devoted, masculine spirit of fatherhood is alive and well!
Author and Fatherhood Expert